Thoughtful guidelines for a great life

When you respect divine, it becomes our first and foremost duty to respect our women too. According to Shastras, even if God wishes to visit Earth, he can come only through a woman, ie Garbha Graha. This is not to respect women for a day and then forget their value for the rest of their life. This read is to make each one understand the responsibility of respecting women until our last breath.

A happy and healthy world is possible only with a happy and healthy society. And it is possible only with a happy and healthy family and a happy and healthy family is promised only by a happy and healthy woman. We can cut the very source of suffering in this world by giving our best to women because every human being can enjoy good health only if the woman is enjoying good health. Only a healthy mother can deliver a healthy child. This is the first and fundamental thing we need to know to create a happy and healthy world. Without accepting this, all our efforts towards success will be of no use. From this moment, let’s make sure to apply this in our relationship to create a beautiful world. The following things, when applied in a relationship, will keep you away from stress and depression.

Do not command or control anyone in a relationship. It’s an untold truth that women are always projected as dependent on men and always been controlled and commanded by men. In reality, they are the most independent species of God’s creation. The absence of women will make a man really understand how dependent he was to her. Now you might have a question. What should we do when there is a conflict in the relationship with a woman? Then apply the principle called reward and redemption. For a man, achievement alone is a real achievement for him, but for a woman, every moment is an excitement. These are qualities that we should never try to change in her. So keep rewarding her in every simple situation. It can be as simple as a morning coffee that she makes for you or a sari that she wears. Try to create a conscious awareness to appreciate a woman for no reason. In other words, do not wait for a reason to appreciate her. It can be your wife, sister, daughter or grandmother. Be thankful to God that you have a woman in life and try not to approach her with command and control. Rather keep rewarding her every moment.

Next comes redemption. At the end of the day, they are the highest and precious gift given to us by God. We tend to compromise or accept others’ mistakes in many areas of life. Practice redemption with your woman too. In spite of knowing that they have done a mistake, you should have the ability to accept them without condemning them. That is the reason redemption is always considered as a divine quality. Above all, it’s your duty to protect them irrespective of their mistakes. That is the meaning of redemption. There may be situations where a woman may not be able to explain why they committed a mistake. This is where a great relationship blooms. Take this as an opportunity and see this as manure for a beautiful future which will promise you with more flowering moments filled with joy and happiness. For that, your quality of redemption is a must to cultivate discipline for a healthy relationship. At the end of the day, humans are humans. We tend to do mistakes. Protecting woman in spite of their mistakes (done unintentionally) and holding their value is called redemption. Start living a life of reward and redemption with your woman. Now I give you a commitment or a promise. By stopping command and control and by applying reward and redemption in your relationship, you will revive and rejoice in every aspect of life.

Through social media, we peep into everyone’s personal space without their permission which creates a disturbance in everyone’s life. It’s okay if somebody is not accepting your presence. No matter what others think about you, you need to first know that you are the most valuable power available for your own self. If someone is avoiding you, don’t disturb them. If someone is disturbing you, avoid them. Never lie to someone who trusts you and never trust someone who lies to you. Keep these two yardsticks in every relationship, be it personal or professional. This will keep you away from unwanted stress in your relationship. But failing to understand this, you will not only have to stress but lose your peace and happiness in life. It’s time for every human being to realise that self-respect is the highest need of the human soul. The highest respect for another human soul is by respecting and not disturbing their personal space. In the present world, we fail to understand the importance of maintaining a limit before we enter into any relationship. We should know where to draw a line in a relationship. There shouldn’t be any delay in realising this truth. Therefore, I request all of you to follow these two principles which will show you beautiful changes in your state of mind. It’s a fact of nature that in a relationship if something is gone, something better is sure to come. Don’t keep wasting time on someone you have lost. Tell yourself that if somebody has left you or betrayed you, it’s true that it’s not easy to come out of it but at the same time you need to come out of it. God has given you this stress not to go through the stress but to give you the strength to handle the stress. The highest stress for human beings is relationship stress. Once you master the art of handling this stress in a relationship, it means God has prepared you to handle success because only a person who can easily handle stress can handle success.

Human life is not just life; it’s a power beyond imagination. Let us salute, respect and love all our loved ones, especially, women in life. A simple way to respect them is not by using praising words or celebrating their presence once in a year. It’s by simply listening to them with full heart and awareness. This may sound simple but this is the ultimate thing that every woman wants in a relationship. They don’t want you to share something but they want to share something with you all the time. They don’t want any solution from you as such but they want a person to listen to them. They want a person who will listen to them without interruption or condition. This will make them feel the best of the best in their life. I request all men to give the respect of listening to women and make them feel valuable in their life.

— Atmayogi Shri AasaanjiAham Brahmasmi!

Atmayogi Shri Aasaanji is anon-religious, contemporary spiritual master and the founder of theAtmayoga Foundation(Institute for Inner-Science and Self-Transformation)

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