The BoJo story: Why bosses must steer clear of office parties

In May 2020, Johnson enjoyed wine and cheese with more than a dozen staff members in the Downing Street garden. Days later, he attended a “bring your own booze” party organised by his private secretary. That June, the PM celebrated his birthday in the Cabinet Room with up to 30 others. In January 2021, he reportedly attended an aide’s going-away party.

A much-anticipated government report said plainly that “some of the events should not have been allowed to take place.” After its publication, Johnson apologised, promising to “learn from these events” in a statement to the House of Commons. “It is no use saying that this or that was within the rules,” he said. “It is no use saying that people were working hard.” He faces mounting pressure to resign. If there is one thing to learn from the slow-motion train wreck of Johnson’s premiership, it’s a fairly easy lesson: Don’t party during a pandemic. But bosses, you would do well to learn another: The best thing a boss can do at an office party is not come. The second-best thing is to leave.

If people in charge stay too long at a staff party, there are two likely outcomes: They’ll do something inappropriate, or one of their employees will. To be sure, there are some benefits to mingling in a social setting (when not in the midst of a pandemic), one of them being that managers and employees can remind one another that they’re human beings. But the best bosses understand their office party assignment: They must buy the booze, toast with the booze and say no more than two out-of-touch things about the cost of living. Then they must leave.

Some bosses shouldn’t ever try to socialise. I had one boss who regularly suggested we clock off early to go to the pub, which created an unfortunate conundrum for those of us who didn’t want to hang out with the person about whom we spent most of our free hours complaining.

The best office parties involve a fair amount of gossiping, venting and — when they take place at the actual office — peeking inside off-limits cupboards. None of these things are possible when the boss is there. One wrong word, one inappropriate dance move, one stray bit of vomit, and a career implodes. No matter how much bosses loosen up, they cannot relax the grip they have on their employees’ continued survival. “Aha!” you might say. “But I am a fun boss, a cool boss, the CEO of having a good time.” And to you I say: That is so much worse. Bosses should not force employees to laugh at their jokes or make them watch, captive, as they flail their limbs to a beat. I’ve been the employee who demands the boss “Stay! Drink! Dance!” and I am now here to say: Do not listen to that employee. (I’m lucky my calls went unheeded: Ten seconds of karaoke, and a rubber stamp would’ve come down on my file, screaming, “DO NOT PROMOTE.”) The worst office parties become competitions to gain the boss’s favour, which should never be determined by how sincere a compliment sounds at a definitely-not-mandatory social event.

So, bosses of the world, please learn from Johnson’s blunders. Office parties are not for you. They are for you to fund, certainly, but after a few sips of warm champagne, you should leave your employees and let them carry on.